The hubster and I joined a few groups in our area to meet with other like minded people. We had our first meet-up on Sat and while I was nervous, it turned out to be a great night. Hubster and I enjoyed our oysters in spite of not being able to finish off our second dozen. I will leave the gory details out.
Cheryl, the first lady on the left, is an avid scuba diver - something the hubster and I are so wanting to do. She also wants to go skydiving, so now I have someone to go with me. Yaaay! Beth, is working towards becoming a Social Worker. The very same field Im majoring in next year. Would have started college this year but the hubster and I really needed some couple time. Im looking forward to hanging out with them again.
Not sure why it's showing a white background. Will have to fix later as it is way past my bed time.
1. What is something you want to change, or a goal you want to set for the New Year, and what is your plan for making it happen?
I have a terrible habit of doubting myself and my abilities. I know what my passions are - to help and inspire others - but often I feel that I may screw up someone's life with the help and/or advice I have to offer. This year Im tackling my deepest fears and Im getting out there. Next month I'll be hitting the pavement with some volunteers to pass out goody bags to the homeless. I have many other things planned as well.
I'm also working on becoming fit and healthy
I also have a list of things Id like to do this year as well which you can read about @ 2014.
Ive dealt with a lot in life - domestic violence, infertility, rape, becoming a widow and a host of other things. The one thing Ive learned through it all is that as bad as those things are that happened, it's led me to where I am now. I can use what's happened as a way to help others, so Im stepping out on Faith to fulfill the many dreams/goals that I have. I have no desire to give up so onward I march. I have a website that talks about my journey @
once broken-now healed.
Actually one of my favorite quotes is..
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me.”
3. I will make 2014 count by...
Pursuing my dreams. Spending more time with my family and laughing so much til I have tears down my face and my tummy hurts. Being thankful that God chose my mom to have me. I miss her dearly. My tribute to her @
I remember mommy and thank you...
So here are my resolutions for the new year...
Spend quality time with my husband.
Last year was extremely rough for me and us as a couple. So much so that hubs and I have decided to take the year off from college.
Alternate each month with (gift) bags for the Salvation Army and women's shelter.
You can find out what the shelters need in your area by calling them
Plan a girls night out with those I know will show up. The Melting Pot always offers a girls night out. First, I will be going there with hubs for Valentines Day since Ive been wanting to go with him since forever.
Get a pedicure and manicure once a month
Start reading one of my many books at least once a month
Start taking better care of ourselves - which includes getting a complete physical.
We start our gym membership Jan. 4th. Lawd help us - Ha!
Start planning our big family vacation up in the mountains
I'd like to finish up my book so I can work on getting it published
Host a tea party for my (step) daughters. How to host a child's tea party.
I remember the parties my mom would host. She would go all out with the food to the proper way to dress.
Go to church at least twice a month and make sure we send in our tithes whether we're there or not.
Buy another car - with cash.
And finally - At least until I think I need to add something...LOL!
* ENJOY LIFE TO THE FULLEST *
The hubsters and I weekend started Friday night. We went to his company Christmas party and then picked up my (step)children afterwards.
It was really nice getting out. Something we haven't been able to do as a family for awhile. The kids enjoyed themselves and that in turn makes me HAPPY. Im looking forward to more moments such as this past weekend, with them. It was nice being able to get out with my husband as well. Im so looking forward to many more nights of "us" time away from the house.
Yeah, it took all this for me to get ready for the party...LOL!!
We decided to take the kids out to lunch at Golden Corral and tried figuring out what to do afterwards. We ended up going for a walk which damn near killed the hubster and I. LOL!
I wouldn't trade the life I have with this bunch of crazy, silly people for anything. We've had our moments but I have no regrets.
He can be a handful but he complements me in ways I would have never fathom. I so love AND like this man Im married to.
After our walk, we drove by to check out this house. He is definitely in the Christmas spirit. The owner told us that half of the stuff wasn't even out because the rats chewed through some of the decorations and wiring. He then gave us a tour of his workshop which the kids thought was pretty awesome.
What Ive learned so far is...
NEVER put anyone before my husband EXCEPT God
Thank you mommy for reminding me of that
Never get into another contract again
The only exception will be our rental agreement. The hubster and I have no desire to buy a house unless we win the lotto of course then we could just pay for it outright.
To embrace myself as a woman
My desire to dress a certain way has nothing to do with attracting the attention of another man.
You can tell the ones that try too hard and those who are just comfortable in their skin.
Less is better
We will be moving next year. Im hoping we can find a place with about the same square footage but if not, we will just have to work around it. The one thing Im not willing to compromise on is having 2 bathrooms and a yard which hopefully is fenced.
We don't need cable
We shall be investing in a dvd player that has the Netflix and Hulu apps. The home phone is yet to be determined as we use our cell phones. If I can get our current provider to get our bill for internet and phone to around $80.00 per month, then I might go with getting the home phone back.
The hubster and I need to start working out
We went walking with the kids over the weekend and had to go up and down steps. Yeah, we were so out of breath and tired that it was so not funny. We are way too young to be dying from a heart attack.
Im a much better (step)mom when I allow the hubster to handle some things
I don't like living paycheck to paycheck
I have all our vacations for next year planned out. Im trying to decide if it's cheaper for DH and I to eat out during dinner sometimes as opposed to us always cooking at home - which I loathe anyway...lol. So many restaurants offer specials, like Applebee's 2 for 20. I do know Id like us to start eating a bit healthier. I definitely need to start meal planning.
I have a lot more to add but I have other things to contend with as well
7/14/34 - 10/25/13
My Beautiful Mother
I remember your strong work ethic.
I remember being dead dog tired and mad that we'd work late into the night until we got the job at hand done. I didn't understand then but I understand why - now.
I remember being pissed that you had ripped up my favorite skirt
It was way too tight and short for a girl my age but I understand why you did what you did - now
I remember you always advising me that forgiveness isn't for the person you need to forgive. It's so you don't hold onto the anger and hurt which could be detrimental to how you spend the rest of your life. I never really understood how you could forgive so easily but I understand why - now
I remember you telling me that you never put anyone before your husband EXCEPT God. I really didn't understand what that meant but I understand why - now
I remember you telling me that every decision I/we make, has consequences whether good or bad. That I would have to live with the decisions I make and Id better be ready to deal with the outcome. I understand a lot better - now
I remember you always instilling in me of what it meant to be a woman/lady. I didn't know the importance of why it's better to be a lady, with tact, even when Im pissed than it is to be a "b" but I understand why - now.
I remember so many things that you tried to teach me that I fully didn't comprehend at the time. The older I become - the more I understand the why's and how's of your advice.
Thank you for loving me unconditionally even when I wasn't the best daughter years ago.
Thank you for not always getting me out of the mess I made
Thank you for being there with me during Les's battle with cancer and helping me make some decisions, after his death, that I wrestled with
Thank you for instilling in me - humility and empathy
Thank you for always reminding me why I never lose my Faith
Thank you for always reminding me that Im not perfect and that things will not always go as I plan.
Thank you for teaching me that it's ok to be strong but also ok to admit when Im weak and to ask for help.
Im still working on this area of my life.
Thank you for all the advice, the love, the wisdom, the ups, the downs, the arguments, the laughter, the tears, and the smiles...
Im thankful that God chose me to be your daughter and you my mother
This year was so very difficult but as you always said - that just means I'm being prepared for something much greater.
While you are no longer here on earth - I know that you are up there in Heaven (smiling and healthy) and some day, I will see you again.
The other morning I swear I heard the vacuum cleaner on which was odd considering nobody was in the house. Freaked me out at first but then I was like - that's just mom in there vacuuming up her room. I rolled back over in bed and kept reading.
I love you and miss you dearly...
A lot has happened this year and it is wearing on me - BIG TIME! I'm trying to get a handle on it all before the end of the year because I REFUSE to carry anything over into the new year.
I like to think that Im a good person. If I help you, it's from the heart not because I have some ulterior motive. I genuinely love helping people which has lead to heartache, disappointment, and trouble. I end up doing the wrong things - such as lending money when I know I don't really have it to lend - for all the right reasons - like preventing someone from having their lights cut off and/or providing food for them.
Yes, Ive done things that Im not proud of - in the past. And while Im not completely blaming the circumstances that lead me to being the way I used to be, it did play a factor. It's why I strive to do right even though I know I may fail at times - I am human. Im still dealing with a lot of hurt and anger - or at least that's what I keep getting told. In certain situations, I have noticed - after the fact - just how deeply my wounds are.
The more you repress the more oppress you become.
It would be so easy to sit here and feel completely defeated. It would be so easy to just give up but that's not in my nature. God surely didn't bring me through all that's happened for me go sit in a corner somewhere and wallow in self pity. I have too much to be happy about, even through the sadness that Im feeling after losing my mommy. My mommy was and will always be the epitome of strength to me - so in that sense, I am my mothers daughter.
Why does bad things happen to good people? A question that has been asked by many. There are answers way beyond my understanding but in the grand scheme of things - like this bible verse says - Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us - Romans 5:3
I have the ability to touch a lot of lives through my many testimonies - from the bad, to ugly to the GOOD. In no way do I think that Im better than the next because of all that Ive been though. However, I do think it's made me a better person and human being.
Prayer ~ Perseverance ~ Patience
I made this via - Smilebox. Just click and it'll open up. I love Smilebox cause at some point in time, I plan on using them to help with my scrapbooking...
About the only game I have any joy in playing is - Pac-Man. My husband on the other hand - well yeah...lol. I don't get all hyper like he does but hey, it's something he loves.
He is into Battlefield 4 at the moment which in some ways goes like this - BF4 to him is like books are to me. He is so not into reading books but hey, just because we are married, doesn't mean we have to share the same hobbies. I do sit in the room with him from time to time to watch him play and Ive tried playing. My brain cant handle it..HA! Talk about NOT having any coordination - AT ALL. Hmm, sort of like me when Im trying to dance...lol.
So after finally making the last payment - he got his PlayStation4
for yall he didn't actually drool. LOL!
His set up in his man cave. What you don't see is: the fridge that's stocked with beer. The microwave and his "snack" basket.
The boom boom that comes from the speakers can be nerve wrecking sometimes - uugh. Men, I swear...lol.
Love you hunni *cheesin'*
Since he got his PS4. I was able to get the PS3 which allows me to play Pac-Man and watch Hulu and Netflix. Notice how cozy my lil corner is?!?
Some of my books are inside the cubby hole and I have a few snacks on deck..LOL!!
Woot!Woot! Yeeeah Boooooy! Boom!